If I asked you, “What’s one word you would use to describe yourself?” what would your answer be?

I don’t know about you, but I can never describe myself in just ONE word (I’m a complex person, yo.) BUT. If “curious” or “thoughtful” came up in your answer, then you’re in the right place.

If you’re someone who believes in the power of kindness, empathy, and trying your damned hardest to be a good person, then you’re ALSO in the right place.

Having a tolerance of swear words and just a *hint* of nerdiness is good around here, too.

If you’ve ever been fascinated by ethics (hello Chidi from The Good Place), Googled any level of your own “deep thoughts” in your free time pretending to be an ancient Greek philosopher, or wondered, “Why the fuck is kindness so hard to come by?” then you’ll probably like hanging out here.

Because, dang. Me too.

But let’s get something straight: this blog isn’t here to give you all the answers to those impossible questions. Rather, it’s meant to explore them WITH you. Because I don’t believe anyone has the answers to those ethics/philosophical/sorta-kinda-crazy-and-too-deep questions. I’m not even sure they exist. But it’s interesting to try to find them.

And really, that’s what it’s all about. I don’t pretend to be a genius, and I’m sure as hell not an expert (on anything.) I just have a lot of questions about life and the world, and I’m convinced that I can’t be the only one.

If you want to get to the end of your life and close the book saying, “I know I lived my life as a good person,” but also question how to make that happen, then I feel you!

My entire life, I’ve been trying to encase myself into *one thing* that would make me a good person. One path I could walk down that would mark me as a good person on my gravestone. And recently, I kinda realized that it’s not really that simple.

It’s not that I think that being a good person is impossible. But it’s not easy, either.

So instead of trying to just find the ONE thing in my life that gives the air around me the sense of good, I want to document the journey of trying to figure out what that even means.

I repeat: I definitely won’t have all the answers. I might even ruffle some feathers with my posts. But if you like to walk a journey and find out your OWN answers instead of just seeking guidance from people who “know better,” then you’ll feel at home here.

Hey friend – I’m Sierra.

About Sierra Mafield

I promise, I don’t talk about ethical and philosophical things all the time. But let’s chat a little more, first.

In October 2019, I labeled myself as a Kindness Coach. I’ve always believed in the power of kindness, and it was something I just wanted to see more of in the world. I was determined to show other people that being kind is the best way to live life and how much of an impact it could have.

In the back of my brain, I knew it wasn’t that simple. Life is more complicated than trying to *just* “Be Kind.” It’s not that I discount any kindness I see (I mean seriously keep being kind, kids, it’s good for the world.)

It’s the fact that I have an ever-curious mind. I’m constantly asking questions that no one has an answer for. Before, I kept wanting to talk about the things that are happening in the world that I think are royally fucked up but also not “sound like a jerk.” I wanted to state my opinions on sensitive topics like religion and politics, but didn’t because I didn’t want to sound like I wasn’t being kind.

Slowly, I started to realize that *only* preaching that we need to be kind to one another is a little bit like a mask that hides the deeper problems we face in the world. Problems that don’t have clear-cut solutions.

In March 2020, all these little subconscious thoughts culminated into one. I went through a breakup that tore me to pieces in many ways. Ultimately, I was stuck in a situation that needed kindness that I didn’t know how to give. It brought up so many questions about my own personal philosophy. In some ways, it made me question who I was.

The question I kept asking myself was, “Am I still a good person after all this?” Because I definitely didn’t feel like it. And it made me realize that a breakup can’t be the only situation that makes people feel like that.

Looking back on my life, it certainly wasn’t the first time that I questioned my highly-valued “goodness.”

It all brought me to the grand question: what does it actually mean to be a good person? Because I no longer believe that it’s a cookie cutter answer. It’s not black or white. It’s messy, complicated, and maybe even a lifelong journey.

Who knows, maybe I’m just an uneducated but vastly curious ethics nerd. 

Either way, we’ll be on this journey together.

Now! Do you want to hear some fun facts about me to maybe make me sound more like a normal human? Okay, cool. Let’s go.

  • I’m from Ohio, and I’m irritatingly proud of it. Yes, I love the Buckeyes. Yep, I love the Browns no matter how many games they lose. I do live “in the boonies,” as they say, and no one can tell me that city life is better than that. (That’s from experience.)
  • Harry Potter takes up a lot of my conversation. I’ve read the books 4 times (so far), I have a Deathly Hallows tattoo, and I have like 6 or 7 wands. I’ve lost count.
  • People often think that I’m no older than 18. But I promise, I’m an adult. Actually, I have the inner soul of an 85 year old lady and the stature of a 12 year old girl, so…it’s your call, really.
  • One time when I was in 3rd grade, I wore my jeans to school backwards. My JEANS. Don’t ask me how, because I couldn’t tell you.
  • I hate knees. They freak me out, and I can’t be in the same room as someone who’s chatting casually about knee caps. Nope.
  • I tend to say “bloody hell” like I’m a British person when I am, in fact, NOT British. I just love the phrase. Englanders do life better.
  • I lived in California for a while but the only thing I remember about it is the forest fire behind our apartment complex. Hey, I was a baby so what can I say.
  • I loathe horror movies. I see no purpose for them. Like, why do you *go out of your way* to be scared to death? I don’t get it.
  • I pay maybe too much attention to people’s laughs. I could really dislike your personality but if I like your laugh, I’ll still sit in the same room as you to listen to your laugh as you chat with someone else.
  • I really love Marvel movies, The Happy Planner and all their various accessories, thrift shopping, the smell of summertime coming after winter, rocking out in the car to some jammin’ music, The Office, and potatoes. Lots and lots and lots of potatoes.

Welp. We’re obviously best friends, now, right?

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